Freeform Katia

May 9, 2008

the sickness

Filed under: family, musings — Tags: , , — freeformkatia @ 12:37 pm

Yesterday I was hit by an illness that came on like a freight-train and left again just as quickly. I woke up in the morning with a backache, and thinking that it was a result of bending over (gardening, washing the stinky dog, picking up too many children), I popped two tylenols and soldiered on. It got worse and I ignored it. I came in to work… and 20 minutes later I announced to my coworkers that I was a-goin’ home (this was at 8am). Home I went, straight to bed, and except to make a trip to the ‘loo I did not get up until 4pm when I had to take the dog out.

The worst time was in the evening when Richard got home with the girls and I could.not.get.out.of.bed. I could not help; I could not take care of my children. Being the super-mom that (I think) I am, this did not stop me from trying. I stumbled downstairs to oversee something (I think I heated up some leftover mac’n’cheese for Maja — most pathetic dinner ever, but she ate it) while Richard took Madeleine with him as he walked Emerson, I had the chills the sweats and began hallucinating (where am I? who are these people? where’s my mommy?). I went back to bed.

Near the end of the evening Maja arrived at my bedside and crawled in to bed with me and a book. Ostensibly I was to read her a story while Richard put Madeleine to bed. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t open my eyes. I couldn’t lift my arms. Thankfully Maja was able to ‘read’ the book to herself (it helped that it was a picture book) … and when she got to the end all I could say was: “can we read that one again?”

I do not know how single parents can raise children alone. What do they do when they get sick? I can’t imagine how I would have gotten through the evening if Richard had not been there. I can only guess that single parents have a different set of resources that they can draw upon — other family, friends.



  1. Listen, sugarpuss, don’t underrate the chance that your Freight Train was your body generally saying “I’m exhausted. Yup, all done; spent; nothing left. Nada. Zip. Zero.” Glad it was able to put you back today, but in the name of Older Mommies, I urge you to consider that you’ve been doing so much for everyone (note last week’s cranky mood as an additional indicator of fatigue and expenditure of spirit), even if some is supposed to be for you.

    I’m a big supporter of simply Not Doing. Passive Parenthood. Wherever possible. It’s way, way out of fashion – so call it, Letting the Children Develop Independence. Harder in the toddler years, but that’s why God invented DVDs. So you can do less! Hope you can find a way.

    And yes, thank Heaven for that Other Parent, especially a cutie like yours (or mine, come to that…)

    Comment by Marianne — May 9, 2008 @ 5:56 pm

  2. Katia…you are the strong one that I know. You are allowed to be sick, you are allowed to be run down, you are allowed to be human. We all want to be super woman but life keeps reminding us..we’re not. I admire you for all you you do. Keep your chin up because it does get better the older the kids are.

    Love ya lots, take of you because if you don’t you can’t take care of the ones you love.


    Comment by Kir — May 9, 2008 @ 7:48 pm

  3. I meant take care of you because if you don’t take care of you you can’t take care of the ones you love. Hope that makes more sense.


    Comment by Kir — May 9, 2008 @ 7:50 pm

  4. Maja is such a sweetheart, reading to you when you’re sick. How cute! I hope you feel better soon.

    Comment by Marie — May 10, 2008 @ 7:31 am

  5. I like Marianne’s comment!
    I got sick just after arrival in Utah and felt so guilty (as if I could help it!). And my cousin (mom of 4!) helped look after my boys and luckily it was over quick. But I totally hear you on hating getting sick. Esp. the time Evan and I were sick at the same time. And esp. the time I was sick on Mothers’ Day last year and had to alternate barfing with breastfeeding. Glad you are well now though!! Happy Mothers’ Day!!!!

    Comment by Lynette — May 10, 2008 @ 9:27 am

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