Freeform Katia

April 14, 2008


Filed under: maja — Tags: , — freeformkatia @ 8:16 am

Maja has started the phase of the “WHY?” conversation. Here is a sample:

M: why are they tearing that building down?

K: probably because they don’t like it.

M: don’t like it? why they don’t like it?

K: because it was ugly.

M: ugly? why it was ugly?

K: maybe they didn’t like the colour.

M: didn’t like the colour? why they didn’t like the colour?

K: because it was dirty.

M: dirty? why it was dirty?

K: because the air is full of pollutants and that made the building dirty.

M: pollutants? why the air is full of pollutants?

K: because we drive cars.

M: cars? why we drive cars?

K: to get places.

M: to get places? why we get places?

….. you can see that these “why?” conversations really have no end. We had one yesterday in the car that lasted at least 20 minutes. I now know why mothers say: Go ask your father!! WHY? Because he can then also enjoy the torture.



  1. Don’t forget the perfectly reasonable response. “I don’t know why” or “I have always wondered about that myself” followed by “but I hope when you are a big girl you will look into that and let me know.”

    Comment by Marg Christenson — April 14, 2008 @ 8:32 am

  2. Why can’t you rationalize with a toddler? I don’t know.

    I hope this “why” phase is mercifully brief. Is it better than a “no” phase? Did Maja have one of those?

    Comment by Laura — April 14, 2008 @ 8:33 am

  3. I particularly like Marg’s comment. I think you should follow that advice. :)

    Comment by Laura — April 14, 2008 @ 8:34 am

  4. Most useful short-circuit with mine was: “What do YOU think?” This also provides opportunity to hear how *they* create rationalizations for the irrational world. Let *them* do the work, I say.

    Comment by Marianne — April 14, 2008 @ 9:51 am

  5. I always did the why do you think? response, it got them thinking and quiet.

    Comment by Mary — April 15, 2008 @ 7:38 am

  6. Thanks for all the tips! I used some of them last night.
    Also, I forgot to mention that for a while instead of asking “why?”, Maja would ask “what because?” — I think she asked that as our answers always started with “because…”

    Comment by freeformkatia — April 15, 2008 @ 8:36 am

  7. Perhaps my favorite all time summing up came from my son at 2 years old, who would say firmly, “Because of so.”

    Comment by Marianne — April 15, 2008 @ 11:50 am

  8. When her Dad was little and we would turn the tables and ask him why —
    his standard answer was always “Because”.

    Enjoy this wonderful age when they are always learning, watching and absorbing. When she is 15 you won’t be able to get anything out of her!

    Happy Birthday to Maja today!! (Wednesday)

    Comment by Grandma Jane and Grandpa Tom — April 16, 2008 @ 7:16 am

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