Freeform Katia

May 21, 2007

Big Girl Bed

Filed under: maja — freeformkatia @ 9:24 am

This is one of those things that I simultaneously looked forward to and dreaded: moving Maja to a ‘big girl’ bed. Richard and I have been blessed with a child who sleeps through the night, and who did so from a very early age (4 or 5 mo.?). With the prospect of baby #2 coming in a mere 9 weeks… and the realization that we would go back to sleepless nights at that point, the idea of moving Maja to a big girl bed and potentially enduring sleepless nights for weeks before baby #2 came along and then potentially having 2 children not sleep through the night was a scenario that made my blood run cold. In short, I was scared.

But, the thought of moving Maja out of the crib after baby came was worse. What if she resented the baby for taking her crib? Aaack.

We bit the bullet on Sunday. Richard headed off to Ikea and bought the Hemnes bunkbed. The theory being that we would take the top bunk and use it as a single bed since it already had siderails ‘built in’. Then, once Maja was old enough we would stack the two beds and bingo! we’d be all set. Bed and mattress in hand (oh, the mattress! We got a $200 mattress for $80 from Mattress Giant’s “Memorial Day” sale — even through the sale doesn’t start until this weekend. Richard is a master negotiator!) we introduced Maja to her ‘big girl’ bed.

There was a little trauma, but then she totally got into the idea of the bed and even helped Richard assemble it.


We put the mattress down, put one of my old sheets on it and Maja climbed right in and pretended to go to sleep! It was awesome.  But, the big question remained: how would she react to it come bedtime? We left the crib in her room because we felt we shouldn’t force the issue. If she wanted to sleep in her crib, fine. If she wanted to sleep in the big girl bed, fine. With both beds in the room she would have her choice and make the transition in her own time.

Skip ahead to bedtime. I’m nervous about it! How is she going to react? Is she going to go in the big bed or insist on the crib? I decided to not push any one choice on her and just go with the flow. We did our regular bedtime routine: milk and stories on the sofa downstairs and then we headed upstairs to get into pajamas and read more stories before going to bed. When it came time for the last story of the night, Goodnight Moon, I asked her the same question I ask her everynight: “ok Maja! Time for bed! Which side do you want to get in on?” Note, I didn’t ask her which bed — that was her choice — just which side. She immediately pointed at the big girl bed and said “this side”. Mom takes a deep breath. Ok. She climbed in, I put her blanket over her, gave her her baby doll, and read Goodnight Moon. Then I kissed her goodnight, said my usual goodnights, and walked out shutting the door behind me. Just as I was about to close the door Maja pipes up: “Maja sleeping in the big girl bed!” She lay down and was quiet.

I stood outside her door for a few minutes waiting for the blowup. It didn’t happen. I went downstairs to tidy the kitchen, listening very carefully over the monitor for signs of movement, escape, screaming… didn’t happen. I went to bed and fell asleep, listening, waiting… nothing happened. She did it. She willingly went into the big bed, fell asleep and stayed asleep the whole night.

I am not counting this as a success story quite yet. I’ll do that after she’s slept in the big bed for a few night and after we’ve removed the crib from her room. In the meantime, though, I can say that she seemed to take the change well.



  1. awesome! hopefully she keeps it up!

    Comment by Lynette — May 21, 2007 @ 9:52 am

  2. Crossing my fingers for you for a smooth transition!

    Comment by balladofyoko — May 21, 2007 @ 10:16 am

  3. So glad to see it went smoothly!

    Glad she didn’t do what her Dad did
    at just about the same age. He crawled out of the bed and wound up falling asleep under the bed.

    Good luck – hope it continues.

    Hugs and kisses to Maja for being a “really big girl” now.

    Comment by Grandma jane — May 21, 2007 @ 11:26 am

  4. Huray! Continued success.

    Comment by Jessica — May 21, 2007 @ 12:57 pm

  5. Sounds like she’s off to a good start! Keeping my fingers crossed that it continues.

    Comment by Laura — May 21, 2007 @ 1:12 pm

  6. oooh, child psychology! Where did you learn all that?!
    I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if she just simply adapts to the new bed, being a big girl now.
    Your older sister I had to restrain in the bed – and for the life of me I can’t remember how Nan and you made the transition. But then, you both were in cribs and there was no pressure to change until school started. I should have made notes …..
    Love, Mom

    Comment by Mom — May 21, 2007 @ 5:04 pm

  7. OK, I just read the “had to restrain your big sister” part. Good thing I don’t remember that. Maja’s family out west are really proud of her – great job Maja.

    Comment by Kirsten — May 24, 2007 @ 1:17 pm

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